So, after receiving so many comments, here were a few that were requested.
10. "God has a bigger plan"....ok. Just because I believe this, doesn't mean you do. This is where you don't want to shove religion down someone's throat. Also, I don't want my daughter thinking it was God's plan to take me out. I'm sure I'll learn everything on the other side, but saying this to people who are dying or just lost loved ones can have an adverse effect on their feelings towards God. Because, what God would allow this to happen? This takes a lot of time to get right in your head even if you are a religious person. So, just consider who you're talking to when saying this.
11. "You look great or You don't even look sick"....I don't mind this so much either because I'm a weirdo that loves the shock value. I mean, a bit morbid, but I have to have a little fun in my head. However, some people get offended by this. Also, just because we don't look sick doesn't mean we aren't desperately fighting for our lives. It's almost like they're saying "you must be doing well because you look so good". Not always true. Some days I can't even get out of bed, but when I do, I go around shocking people.
12. "Never Ever Give Up"....ok. Jimmy V's speech was one of the most inspirational speeches I have ever heard and makes me cry every time. But, I think people take it the wrong way. Some come away with it implying that if you stop the torture of treatment you are giving up. One must consider quality of life over quantity of life. This probably gets to the more religious of us, because we know, as Joan Fong said, "see you on the other side" is better than the torment we go through. I think he meant it in a more mental sense. Because sometimes, there are no more options for treatment or you want to LIVE the rest of your life. That is what I took from his speech. So, just consider who you're talking too when saying this.
All this being said, I'm sure you're like, "Well, what the hell do I say?" I've linked a website to a designer of cards for cancer patients. Stuff similar to this is good. "I'm sorry, that really sucks" is good. So here is a link to some cards....and I think most of them are spot on, and they are kinda funny. Google is also a good place to look. Here is that link: What we want to hear Peace!